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Post by kovu on Nov 6, 2009 19:22:07 GMT -5
I'll start by apologizing for my extremely long absence. School this year has been crazy! But, on to why I'm on this board. I'm sure many of you are curious. It has a slight backstory as to why I haven't been here. Please don't be offended or think less of me once you hear the story! I'm really just barely hanging in there mentally right now, but I'll try and explain.
I shoplifted. And I got caught and arrested. My "friend" had gotten me started on it, and kind of encouraged me while I was doing it. And I took this little five dollar thing for her, because she wanted it and didn't have the money and I love to make my friends happy. But I got caught and then she pretty much just left me there. They handcuffed me and took me to a station and it was the scariest time in my entire life. Not to mention I was all alone. So they said they would send a court date and my dad took me home.
I was sooooo scared for weeks of this court thing. I kind of sunk into a depression. I kept thinking things would never go back to normal, and they are kind of starting to. Kind of. I mean, we have to pay a $250 fine and I have to take a rehab class thing in two weeks, which I'm terrified of going to, but I guess after that it all goes away. But that's not all, folks.
Lately I've been very frustrated with my "friend". She started me on it, she didn't stop me or anything, and I took the thing for her. But she says over and over ever time I try to talk to her that she had nothing to do with it. "You make your own decisions, you are your own person, I didn't make you do it, I had nothing to do with it..." is pretty much her exact argument. Yes, I see where she is coming from. But my other friends say what she did was shitty and that I shouldn't be her friend. And I would be willing to make amends if she would just admit she had something to do with it and apologize!
Do you guys think she should have to apologize, or do you agree with her that she had nothing to do with it? I could really use an outside opinion. |
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Post by bellatrix on Nov 7, 2009 0:46:55 GMT -5
Yeah, of course some of it was your fault but it was her's too. She wanted you steal and she was there when you were doing it, and most of all, you were stealing it for her. YOU SHOULD NOT BE HER FRIEND. Obviously she's a bad influence! She wants you to do things that get you into trouble and then she bails on you. Even if she does admit she had something to do with it, which she probably won't unless you tell her you can't be friends anymore, who is to say she won't do something like this again?
She sounds like bad news. I'm telling you I've known a lot of people like her and that's a sign that she isn't a good friend.
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Post by jake on Nov 7, 2009 2:33:44 GMT -5
Well. I can’t say I’ve ever been in such a predicament. However, I do know what it’s like to have an unhealthy influence around you. One of my very best friends started skipping class, which can be argumentatively small, but then it progressed to hanging around so not so friendly people who do some not so friendly things and I…well, long story short, me and said best friend are no longer friends. It’s hard to let someone go, especially as everyone always engrains in you “when someone does something you don’t like or can hurt them, you need to stick with them and help” stuff. Honestly I kinda think that’s a load of bull, for specific cases at least. It’s a tough call, Snarky, but I think each of you are in fault in your own way thus owing one another an apology and perhaps, you know, agree to simply disagree and move on. Hope you figure it out, whatever you decide. ♥ |
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Post by kovu on Nov 7, 2009 18:33:58 GMT -5
Thanks, guys. I was kind of scared to bring it up and share things with you, but all my fears were mislaid! I do believe I should have a talk with her, and I don't think we're going to be friends anymore. As a matter of fact, I'm going to tell her that. Thanks! I'll let you know how it goes. =) |
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Post by rose on Nov 8, 2009 0:30:13 GMT -5
Gah! I'm late! But oh welll. Snarkyyyyyyy! I miss youuuuuuu! And I'm sad to see that things have been rough for you. I'd give you advice, but it'd prolly be pretty much what the others said? Just stay away from her. Obviously, she's a really bad influence. You're better off not knowing people like that at al -nodnodnod- Good luck lovie! -snugs- |
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