Affection?

[Indigo Grace]

Okay, IS THERE ANYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD THAT DOESN'T LIKE AFFECTION?

I'm serious, like actually doesn't enjoy it. I just made out with a guy and I didn't even like it. Granted, he was a little all over the place but COME ON. You'd think I'd be a little bit interested.

[Lyle Malarkey]

Oh, oh, oh, oh! -raises hand- Pick me, pick me!

I can't really explain my views on affection, because I'm crazily affectionate with all my friends and stuff. I'm also a ridiculous flirt. And a bit of a make-out slut, but that's only with a bit of rum in my system; I can usually restrain myself from sucking face when sober.

Mostly, though, I can count the times I've soberly made out with someone on one hand, and I can count the times I've enjoyed it on one finger. Yes, ladies and gents, I've made out with over twenty people whilst drunk, but only five people whilst sober (Oh, God, I sound like both an alcoholic and a slut). Still, I've never really had that moment where I'm like, "Oh, yes, we have to do that again NOW." except for that one time, and that was kind of a special case.

In the two relationships I've been in -- bwahahaha, I'm such a pro' at this, yu guise -- I've always been really reserved about PDA, and I was not a fan of it even in private. I think, for me, it was because the people I was with were fucking awful at it. Like, I may or may not have legitimately broken up with a guy because he was such a terrible kisser. Like, I'm going to plead the fifth on that one.

I don't want to be one of those assholes who is all like, "Mebbe yu jst havent found teh rite person yet, kels!1!11" but it may be true. I was completely uninterested in making out until this guy fucking rocked my world, and then I was all about it to unfortunately find out that it's not the same with everyone -- feelings-wise. There really isn't much diversity between tongue-in-mouth, but that just might be me being a naive ickle virgin. -shrugs- I'm not saying you should pull what I'm pulling (making out with anybody and everybody -- ohmygod, guys, seriously, I swear I'm not a slut), but you shouldn't completely write it off because the guy you were with was all over the place.

The first guy I made out with? Happened while we were watching Adventureland, one of my all-time favorite movies except for Kristen Stewart being in it, but I was mostly able to ignore the night troll in favor of Ryan Reynolds and Jesse Eisenberg. It was the weirdest moment of my life, because he was just, like, staring at my face while I'm trying to watch this movie. And finally, I looked up at him and was like, "What, is there a booger -- mmmmf," because he literally just went in with his tongue. So I giggle like an idiot and he pulls away all, "What?" and I'm like, "Oh! Uh. I've never done this before?" and he was really fucking corny and was like, "Oh, well, you're pretty good at it," and I'm like, "HOW CAN YOU TELL?! YOUR TONGUE IS EVERYWHERE." but I didn't actually say that because his tongue was, in fact, everywhere. So we're just mackin' on my couch all cliched-like, and it's awful so I'm still paying attention to the movie. And Ryan Reynolds -- being the absolute Adonis of a comical God that he is -- said something funny, so I start laughing again, and he breaks away and is all, "What?" and I'm like, "Didn't you hear what he said? It was super funny." and he was like, "... I'm not paying attention to the movie."

And then I was like, "Oh." And then I paused, because I'm an asshole, before I was like, "Oh, right, me neither." And then his tongue was back in my mouth.

And, okay, I totally broke up with him like three days later. Come at me, bro. It was awful.

But theeeeen I met this amazing boy in NYC and he absolutely rocked my world -- you do not want the play-by-play for that one. It involves throwing boys against walls and getting picked up and carried to a couch and getting laid on by beautiful, athletic boys with dorky smiles and charming personalities and just the right amount of tongue and, haha, that's as much of a play-by-play as I can tell you without seriously getting graphic --and so I'm iffy about affection/making out with people outside of the platonic lines of relationships. I'm a cuddle whore and a hugger and a hand-holder to the extreme, but I'm wary about sticking my tongue down someone's throat unless I'm seriously crazily into the guy.

Was the boy just, like, a friend or did you have a crush on him? Sometimes, that's the difference. The boy I was dating I was dating out of pity I didn't have feelings for, while the boy in NYC, I was all, "HNNNNG" for. Hahahaha.

Sorry for the epic rant. I'm... not even sure if this is what you were looking for. I just read "made out with a guy and he was all over the place" and was all, GPOY.

[treyjackson]

Okay! So I thought I must add to this as well.

First of all.

THIS IS TOTALLY PERFECTLY FINE. NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU.

For me, nothing is more of a turn off then a bad kisser. Like actually sometimes I can't even, kl;asdfjlsjkfsf. Like when I'm kissing a guy, and he's just bad, ahhh nothing worse! I don't feel affectionate to that, I just feel, weird and put off and a little confused.

So don't worry! Like when my boyfriend and I kissed, we totally hit it off and it was great, but ever since then I've just been kissed by people who just turn me off, and yuck!

I'm totally with Kiara about totally thinking/doing other things like watching a movie while being kissed. It's just, yeah. Bad kissing is like one of my biggest turn offs. But it might also be that you're just not attracted to this guy at all. Which is totally fine too. My point is not to worry! Haha hope I helped a little bit.

[Indigo Grace]

Wow thanks of the responses guys!

Okay yeah, like he was a bad kisser. First of all I've talked to him a lot because he goes to my church but this is the first time we have actually done something outside of my church and hung out or whatever. He came over to my house for dinner and he was giving me a back rub and then we cuddled and then I knew he was going to kiss me and I was like "Okay fine, I like you." But oh my god it's a first kiss don't freaking eat my face! He shoved his tongue in my mouth and wanted to keep making out forever and ew, slobbery bleh.

so yeah I'm glad it's not just me. Unfortunately no although I have a bit of a crush on him I'm not physically attracted to him, but the guys I am physically attracted to are assholes and I never want anything to do with them. AND, the last time I liked a guy I didn't find attractive, after awhile and I got to know him, he became attractive to me so I hope that's what happens?

Thanks you guys for your help, and your horror stories! Hahahahaha. I'm going out with him on Friday so we'll see how that goes, and if no sparks then you know...that's the end of that haha.

[Indigo Grace]

Okay so this is what I decided: That I should end things before they start.

I really wasn't attracted to him and he is NINE years older to me, which in my church basically is considered "clock is ticking" and he's looking for a long term relationship. Very nice guy, but it doesn't feel right.

So I ended stuff before it began and I feel good about it other than probably hurting his feelings a little, but people get over it, that's what I have to remind myself.

I'll find someone one day that'll knock my socks off haha!

Hopefully it won't take too long. I just think it's unfair to drag a boy into my emotional baggage and I'm not ready for a relationship with anyone at the current moment. I'm....what's the best way to put it other than having a mild case of "Isadora?"

Yeah. Haha

Love you guys, thanks for input and listening to my rant/frustrations.